Infidelity and attachment betrayal (spanning physical affairs, emotional infidelity, and secret cyber-relationships) represent acute relational cataclysms that shatter foundational assumptions of emotional safety, predictability, and shared reality. Grounded in Shirley Glass’s seminal Windows and Walls Metaphor (Not “Just Friends”) and John Gottman’s Trust Revival / Atonement-Attunement-Attachment Model, discovering an affair triggers clinical symptoms mirroring acute Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in the betrayed partner: intrusive images, hypervigilance, emotional flashbacks, and profound hyperarousal. The Infidelity, Betrayal and Trust Repair Psychoeducation Module delivers 8 structured video lessons on transparency protocols, emotional boundaries, and the rigorous 3-phase journey of genuine clinical trust repair.
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Shirley Glass’s Windows and Walls Architecture
A healthy relationship maintains a Wall around the couple protecting them from external intruders, and a Window between the partners for open emotional intimacy. Infidelity occurs when a partner creates a secret Window with an outside person (sharing private marital complaints, emotional secrets), while erecting a defensive Wall against their legitimate spouse.
John Gottman’s 3-Phase Trust Revival Framework
- Atonement: The participating partner must demonstrate radical transparency, absolute cessation of all affair contact, endure repetitive questioning without defensiveness, and offer profound, humble remorse.
- Attunement: Rebuilding the emotional foundation by learning to handle conflict, validate vulnerable feelings, and meet emotional needs collaboratively.
- Attachment: Establishing a renewed marital contract, creating rituals of connection, and forging deep, mutual erotic and emotional commitment.
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