Romantic couple relationships are primary adult attachment bonds that exert profound influence on individual cardiovascular health, immune functioning, and psychological wellbeing. Pioneered by John and Julie Gottman at the Gottman Love Lab and Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), relationship distress is not caused by having disagreements; rather, it is dictated by how couples navigate conflict and emotional disconnect. Grounded in attachment neuroscience, the Couple Relationships and Couple Therapy Psychoeducation Module delivers 11 structured video lessons covering the Gottman Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, the 5:1 positivity ratio, emotional bids for connection, and de-escalating attachment protest cycles.
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The Gottman Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
- Criticism: Attacking partner’s personality or character rather than a specific behaviour (“You never think of anyone else”). Antidote: Gentle Start-up.
- Contempt (The #1 Predictor of Divorce): Sarcasm, cynicism, mockery, eye-rolling, and hostile disgust. Antidote: Cultivating fondness and appreciation.
- Defensiveness: Playing the blameless victim or righteous indignation (“The problem isn’t me, it’s you”). Antidote: Taking responsibility for even a small part of the problem.
- Stonewalling: Emotionally withdrawing, turning away, and refusing dialogue due to physiological flooding (heart rate > 100 bpm). Antidote: Physiological self-soothing time-out.
Sue Johnson’s EFT: The Demand-Withdraw Attachment Cycle
EFT recognizes that under relationship anger lies deep attachment panic: one partner pursues with criticism (protesting emotional abandonment), while the other withdraws to protect against rejection. Therapy helps partners articulate primary vulnerable feelings (“I am terrified I am failing you and you will leave”) to re-establish secure emotional bonding.
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